Well back from my months holiday at the lake had a real relaxing holiday. W phoned nearly everyday and we had some great conversations. She seems to be very close to me when shes away from me but that little wall reappears when were physically close to each other. I mentioned this to her and she said she considers me a really good friend (an up grade from just friends I guess HA!) I really do feel she would love to have this plutonic relationship for ever, funnily enough she often brings up sex (I think they are some issues there) I've told her I'm OK with this arrangement for now but not forever! Also we had a very civil conversation yesterday regarding her returning to her family in England which I support if that is what she needs to do and I told her so, I also mentioned that she needed to deal with her issues not just acknowledge that she has them ,and that she should really think about wether she would any better off if she was some were else at this time in her life? The ball is in her court we will see what she does with it , 20 months since the bomb, the saga continues!!! C.