WOW!! progress w H? Keeping my PMA

[Neilh23]

what my DB coach suggested me to do is to try and find a way to facilitate my W to open up to me about how she feels. LIke use the reflective listening to get her to open up.

Here's how maybe you could use it...

Pisces: So how are you doing?
Pisces'H: I'm ok, I guess.
Pisces: So you're just ok?

something along those lines. Probably not as cut and dry, but that's something you could try.

I find myself thinking about reflective listening all the time now. It's something that needs to be practiced all the time so it becomes a habit. It's tough, but I feel more in tune with whoever i'm talking to.

hope that helps. It really might get him to open up to you. Don't force it....remember, make him feel comfortable around you and all that jazz.