Hi Lost, Its admirable to see another WAW battling it out here. Unless I'm mistaken your coming here shows you really want to save your M. From my own perspective as an LBS, if you have any hope of that big invisible wall coming down, then your filing that D makes it very very difficult. Your H did contribute to your building that wall. What is most likely to happen now if you don't put a lid on the D process and get rid of OM very quickly is that your H will be compelled to hire an L to defend him and then ANY hope of saving things goes down to zero. Could you save your marriage and still be a determined, feisty woman with your time and space? You can if your really set your mind to it and with some help! Yes, you felt hurt/trapped for years and H was none the wiser and so you got to this state. But hurting back will not make it right. I suggest reading Smartcookie's sitch in detail and getting her advice - she's a tough cookie as well. There are a few others as well. Sorry if I'm being hard on you and I'm sure I don't understand a lot of the pain you are going through. But there's plenty of help here.
