Sawks, maybe I'm not understanding this, or it works different in Canada, but you're not even separated! What does Separation date mean when you're still living together? And I know here in the States if you have sex (which happens in most of our sitches), the judge can reset the S date. The statement is "living together as husband and wife" which the judge can interpret.
As for the papers sitting in your trunk, what else would you do with them? Now it's just wait a year, right?
You're doing great bro. Your reaction was perfect. The legal stuff doesn't matter. It's really weird to me that she hasn't moved out, made any plans, anything. That's usually the first thing a WAW does.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
Sawks, maybe I'm not understanding this, or it works different in Canada, but you're not even separated! What does Separation date mean when you're still living together? And I know here in the States if you have sex (which happens in most of our sitches), the judge can reset the S date. The statement is "living together as husband and wife" which the judge can interpret.
As for the papers sitting in your trunk, what else would you do with them? Now it's just wait a year, right?
You're doing great bro. Your reaction was perfect. The legal stuff doesn't matter. It's really weird to me that she hasn't moved out, made any plans, anything. That's usually the first thing a WAW does.
It is very weird.. i am not sure.. she put something down as grounds" living apart for one year"..my friend on saturday can interpret that one..i have no idea..
We are seperated though, we sleep in different rooms, we don't really do things as "H & W"..
i am pretty sure that defines seperation.
as for the papers, i can contest or ask for additional info, again my friend will tell me on Sat...because i don't know
She hasn't moved out because her name is on the mortgage , she has asked if i plan on taking over everything.. i keep responses minimal.
I caught her checking me out last night.. anothe baby step..
I think, that most places I have read about, being "separated" in the same house is NOT living apart. IF you choose to fight it, you can probably throw a monkey wrench into her plans, and at least delay things. Quite possibly a lot.
I think, that most places I have read about, being "seperated" in the same house is NOT living apart.
I agree. And she had you served while she was standing right there? What? Can't say I've ever heard a story like this. You handled it very well.
Honestly, I think living on her own might be a good reality check for your W. Hopefully she can't go all the way through with a D without ever leaving your house...
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I think, that most places I have read about, being "separated" in the same house is NOT living apart. IF you choose to fight it, you can probably throw a monkey wrench into her plans, and at least delay things. Quite possibly a lot.
i will find out more Saturday, my friend has alot of experience..and i don't have the docs handy but i think it did say "living apart for 1 year" hmmm
I think, that most places I have read about, being "seperated" in the same house is NOT living apart.
I agree. And she had you served while she was standing right there? What? Can't say I've ever heard a story like this. You handled it very well.
Honestly, I think living on her own might be a good reality check for your W. Hopefully she can't go all the way through with a D without ever leaving your house...
Close, SIL asked me to come downstairs to the kitchen... W was upstairs with SIL BF.. remember i snooped, i knew it was coming.. as SIL chickened out, i asked one last time "anything else ?"..
went upstairs and watched tv for a short time, and then thanked SIL and BF for coming for dinner, and politely left.
i agree i think living on her own might be a good reality check.. i got my copy of DR today.. and in chapter 1 : family/friend influence..i know there is ALOT.. but my W is strong and will hopefully make up her own mind.. i think it's alot about saving face for her now that she sees i've changed..(i know it has to be long term).. but now that she has made a drama out of it..
I think, that most places I have read about, being "seperated" in the same house is NOT living apart.
I agree. And she had you served while she was standing right there? What? Can't say I've ever heard a story like this. You handled it very well.
Honestly, I think living on her own might be a good reality check for your W. Hopefully she can't go all the way through with a D without ever leaving your house...
All it takes is one time where she says "I changed my mind" then what... oh ok... this is so mind boggling!
i got my copy of DR today.. and in chapter 1 : family/friend influence..i know there is ALOT.. but my W is strong and will hopefully make up her own mind.. i think it's alot about saving face for her now that she sees i've changed..(i know it has to be long term).. but now that she has made a drama out of it..
make sense?
Yes, makes a lot of sense. I'm in the same situation. Hopefully our wives are strong enough. It took a lot of strength to leave and get our attention in the first place, though we may not like it.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
i got my copy of DR today.. and in chapter 1 : family/friend influence..i know there is ALOT.. but my W is strong and will hopefully make up her own mind.. i think it's alot about saving face for her now that she sees i've changed..(i know it has to be long term).. but now that she has made a drama out of it..
make sense?
Yes, makes a lot of sense. I'm in the same situation. Hopefully our wives are strong enough. It took a lot of strength to leave and get our attention in the first place, though we may not like it.
Yep agree 100% ... my W , like yours from what i read, is noticing all the changes, mine lives with me and gets to see me everyday, so hasn't really felt the brunt of being "seperate" yet, other than me doing everything on my own. It did take a lot of strength for her to make this decision, but now that she keeps telling everybody, i can;t see how she would change her mind, even if she wants to, it maybe all about "saving face" for her now.. i don't know i can't read minds.. (i wish i could sometimes)
I also just found out that my work does NOT cover her gym membership... so it's going on my visa. Wondering if anyone has any ideas on how to ask her what she wants to do... really i shouldn't have to pay for her at this time, if we got back together fine, but right now we are apart..
i started with " I thought we were both covered under my wellness plan but..." and don't know how to put it
