Spitfire, glad to hear you've grown a lot through Divorcebusting. I think the benefit of DB'ing is that two fold blessing you found: one, getting your marriage on a new level; and, two, personaling growing yourself.
Love is dynamic, not static, and it's easy to fall into a rut. Course, you know what a rut is: an open grave with both ends kicked out.
So keep speaking the language of love, keep the dynamics going, and keep growing yourself. I've heard it said, and the analogy is good, that marriage is like a garden. We have to water it, feed it, and pull weeds. You also have to take care of the other party, as well as yourself.
You sound like you've made some major turnarounds. Keep it up, and keep us posted how things are going.
