Decided it was time to move to another forum. Hoping this is the correct one. I won't bore anyone with previous threads, here is a brief history. Married 22 yrs today as a matter of fact, me 46 W 43 S 17 S14 D12. W dropped bomb 18 months ago were still together, thought for sure it was over. I think I was in the midst of a mild MLC at the time I know my W is going through a major one, the BOMB jolted me from mine W is slowly surfacing from hers. Began DBing within weeks of BOMB kept me sane ,saved the family, and hopefully my M. Bomb was best thing that could have happened to me as I have grown tremendously personally. My W and I get along better now than we ever have, we do though have a long way to go. We have in fact no physical contact with each other and I must admit there are some trust issues on both sides, her thinking I will resort to my old controlling aggressive ways, and on my part wondering if she has done anything that she might regret, as she was I think capable of anything a year and a half ago. Anyways that the condenced version I might also add I did wish her "Happy A" today (didn't mention it at all last year)and she didn't run shrieking from the car so I'll take that as a baby step LOL!
