Your question is spot on FB. I can only hazard a guess as to why we are not together... I think there are likely a few reasons 1) He has said he doesn't want to come back to this home. Not sure why? Maybe he wants a fresh start? But who's to say that it won't take months and months to sell the house? 2) He's still working on sorting out his priorities. He lost himself in his work leading up to the bomb and he said that this summer will be the test.. if he can work his butt off while still trying to keep D2 and I a focus amongst the craziness he will feel like he's capable of juggling all of his responsibilities. 3) I think he's enjoying living on his own. The only time he has lived alone was the 3 months before my job transfer to the city after we got engaged. So I think he likes the freedom of having "me" time.
Like I said, these could be the reasons, there could be more on top of it.. he could be full of cr@p and just cake eating.. I honestly don't know.
Knowing what his honest reasoning is wouldn't change the fact that he's not here. And that's what I tell myself constantly. Because there is NO guarantee that he will come back.
I just want to sell my house and get D2 and I into a condo so that I have less stuff to do around the house.. I also want to find a job and feel like I'm contributing an income and interacting with adults. So I, my D2, the job search and the sale of my house are how I focus my attention now. My interactions with H are ALL initiated by him. I respond to every contact (in my own time) but I don't chase. I thank DB for that.
Hugs, W2G
PS. When this thread locks I too am moving over to the separated forum in case you're looking for me .
Happy Canada day from a fellow canuck. I just got caught up.....Pretty amazing what your H saidafter you complimented him. It sounds like he is still struggling. By the way do you know your H's LL?
W2G, I had a hunch about the words of aff.....I would say to keep concentrating on that. Don't overdo it.....it worked for me so maybe there is a chance. I have continued to concentrate on the words and have continued to get good results. It's amazing how easy it is once you get used to it. I was not one to give compliments easily. Now, I encourage and compliment more.....I think D7 inherited the gene.
Hi W2G, Wow you have so much to deal with right now - the S, D2, sale of the house/looking for another place to live, job search, and of course looking after YOU.
BTW, I am now living very close to you, west of the city. If you want to get together, let me know.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Yes, he gets very pleased when I compliment him. I used to always be the type that did that... but with me really disliking my job etc... for the months leading up to the bomb I think I became somewhat self absorbed!
Addie, I would so love to get together with you!! That would be wonderful!
No I'm not. I actually tried to register a couple of weeks ago but didn't receive my activation link. I tried to resend the info but it said I was already registered but somehow I still can't get on. I'll have to try again and then I'll let you know.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
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