W and I piecing this M back together #3

[Rob1231]

Well, Lan, just remember - this isn't as simple as flipping a switch. Backslides will happen, for both of you. Your job? Recognize that this is normal, and don't freak out. In my experience, the key is for you not to escalate things, particularly when your W tries to turn it up a notch or two. Hang in there and keep your eye on the long view!