Originally Posted By: daisy282

I completly understand that I have a TON of things to work on personally. I cannot be so clingy/dependent in my marriage relationship


what makes you say that?
I'm not sure thats actually such a problem for you.

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I guess I am mostly frustrated because I feel like now that I finally understand what I need to change about myself
[....] How do I show him my new changes are for real when I never encounter him? I know it has only been a week and a half but I feel like it might as well have been a year for all the distance there is between us. I just want another chance to make things work.

Thanks for listening.



I'm not sure you really do fully understand what you need to change about yourself, Daisy.
You are probably emotionally reeling still, from the shock.

You're also in a bit of a tough situation, in that if he wanted, your h could basically just not talk to you, until divorce papers come through or something.

So... perhaps the best things you could do, might be to

#1. "get a life", as they say, so you dont get completely taken up by this

#2. "be a good friend" to your h. say bye-bye to "the bitch", and try to just listen, and in some ways be supportive of when he chooses to talk with you, even if it's on difficult subjects like "him and his new house".

you're young. you dont know much about each other.
Use those times to see if you can learn more about your h. what he likes... what he is looking for in his future.
Then show him that you can be supportive, rather than just "a nag and a bitch".

That's my impulsive thoughts for you, anyways.


My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D.
Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M.
3 wonderful sons caught in the middle