Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

Phoenix - Exactly - but she's so selfish right now (and readily admits that) that she doesn't see anyone else's perspective.

She has definitely made that choice but in the past few days (since her last counseling session) I've seen some small positive signs. I love your first suggestion - I just wonder if I have it in me right now to do that. It would be completely out of character for me. I'm not very confrontational but when I do get to that point she thinks I'm very intimidating. But on the 4th of July weekend with a few drinks - it is possible. I know my W would blow a gasket - and I'm not afraid of that anymore.

Your W's next suggestion is what our MC had us agree to. One night per weekend/week. Sometimes my W sticks to it, sometimes she doesn't - it usually depends on how we're getting along. This weekend - she had made plans with them for the 4th and then again on Sunday (it's the neighbor's W birthday). When I asked last night if we had any plans - she didn't mention Sunday. I think she would compromise right now. Last time she did move to down stairs, she lasted 5 days and then asked if it was ok to sleep in our bed again.

I love the part about moving in with the neighbors _ I actually suggested that in our big argument at MC when she was still going. #3 would be ideal - but she won't leave the house - how can I get her to do that. Honestly as much as i love her, I and the kids could use a break from the soap opera right now.