Thanks for the kind words. I've already had an opportunity to explain to D5. But, I didn't really say anything. D5 makes statements about things, in this case the name change hearing, that are really questions in which she is seeking reassurement. All I could do is say yes to her statement that the judge said they couldn't change their names because I still don't think her level of understanding is sophisticated enough to discern the complexities of the subject.
I think the kids DO want to change their names but due to their confusion about the sitch.
One thing that came out in the cross exam of XW was that the kids had asked her if Numbnutz was going to be their new dad and she told them yes. So I think they have lingering confusion about stuff. But, I have to continue to deal with the prospect that the kids are closer to and identify more with their stepfather than they seem to with me.
I don't wish for them to divorce because I do want her to find hapiness and I want to transcend above all that happened in the past to be a better man. But sometimes, I really do wish that their R would implode so that I could get him out of their livesn though he treats them well. Although, is he really treating them well by being complicit in a overt attempt to minimize my R with my kids? One could make the argument he's being abusive by being party to mindfncking them with XW.
Been in phone discussions and on a date with this gal. We both have busy schedules so we haven't gotten together since the firtst time. Know someone to hook me up with?
