Mulesqb still getting kicked in the a$$

[mulesqb]

It's almost like she's addicted to their lifestyle, and she is rebelling against anything that stands in its way. They represent carefree, mindless escapism to her, and you and your children are viewed as anchors, holding her back and ruining all her fun.

Don't get me wrong, I still think she has had inappropriate feelings for HIM, and I think they've probably mutually even done some light, inappropriate THINGS (and I could even still be all wrong, and who knows, maybe it was a full-blown affair). But the important thing is that I am MORE CONVINCED THAN EVER (as it sounds like you are now, too) that these people are not the CAUSE of your problems, but they are certainly the immediate OBSTACLE TO SOLVING THEM.

Puppy - I am in 100% agreement. She has even used the word rebelling here and there. At one point she told me that I had my wild period (back in college - it was just typical stuff)already.

I also agree with you 100% about the H and the inappropriate feelings. I don't think it hit the physical side YET. I just always felt that the more I brought it up the closer she seemed to get to him. When I was accepting it cooled and was A LOT less flirtatious. She has told me that she is keeping my feelings in mind when we are around them. When I'm not home - who knows??

Your last sentence sums it all up for me right now. And what an obstacle it is. You can't say a bad word about these people. She defends them at all costs. Do you think I am stupid to just accept them? It seems to give us something in common in her mind. Right now I want to give the kids a break. Like I said before, it's not easy to have private conversations in our house so they know way more than they should.


She actually just called me at work for the first time in a few weeks. I can't tell you how good it is to hear her voice when I am at work. It used to be my favorite time every day. We used to make it a point to talk every day for 10 minutes or so. I miss that as much as anything else - she could make me smile no matter what was going on here.

When this is all over - no matter how it ends - i owe you guys a dinner - you don't know how much you have helped me personally.