OK Dom, then what IS my plan of action. How can I just say I will no longer do this and this ... I need to know HOW, and tell him HOW.

When is a good time to bring up the changes I want to see in HIM?

Me 36
Husband 35
D5
S2
separated:
10/29/07-present
Served divorce papers 1/22/09
"When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."