ms ladybug SQUISHED (2)

[Dom R]

h: I don't get you! Last night you say you don't want a divorce, and now you want the attorney list!
m: I don't want a divorce, it just didn't seem like that was one of the options when you asked me which divorce I want!
h: I don't trust you. You say you've changed, but you haven't. How am i supposed to know that things will get better.
m: I don't know (I know, bad reply, but remember this was 2:30am, I was sound asleep and couldn't think).
h: I have to go, call me when you want to talk about it.

CALL HIM!!!

And talk about how you DONT want a divorce. and similar topics.

Talk about plans you have for things to get better.
Not "I'll try really hard", but *specifics*. Remember, that mem feel better if they have a specific plan of action laid out for them.

Talk about any counselling you may still have planed for yourself.

if you are still interested in it, mention that you'd still like to try retrouville with him, and why.

Any other specific positive actions and plans you can think of.

He's opened a door for you, very wide. Use it, while it is still open.
I suggest that you call him as soon as you have collected your thoughts enough to know what you are going to tell him.

Marcum, thanks for responding. I AM being blamed for EVERYTHING. He has not taken responsibility for ANYTHING and is waiting, watching for me to slip up in my changes so he can justify leaving. I don't want to sound like a kid, but it's not fair.

yes, you sound like a kid. sorry
marriage is not "fair".

But, if you want "fair"... the way he is treating you, IS "fair". He doesnt trust you, based on your past actions and words. That is reasonable and fair.
He's waiting for you to do what you usually do. Which WOULD "justify him leaving" (in his values, anyway)

So... take the "fair chance" you've been given, and run with it