H called me last night (early this morning at 2:30am). He wakes me up from a dead sleep, so I'm a little confused and groggy: h: did you make your decision? m: decision? h: Do you want a collaborative divorce or do we each get an attorney? m: I don't know. I'll have to look into that. h: I told you the difference. With a collaborative divorce, we can agree on how to split things, without all the big court/attorney fees. If you choose a collaborative divorce, you have to choose an attorney from the list I have. m: can you email me the list? h: I can give it to you. m: ok thanks. h: I don't get you! Last night you say you don't want a divorce, and now you want the attorney list! m: I don't want a divorce, it just didn't seem like that was one of the options when you asked me which divorce I want! h: I don't trust you. You say you've changed, but you haven't. How am i supposed to know that things will get better. m: I don't know (I know, bad reply, but remember this was 2:30am, I was sound asleep and couldn't think). h: I have to go, call me when you want to talk about it.
He's making my head spin... ------------------ catfan: right or happy...I guess I just think that I can be happy by being right. I think when I feel things escalate...I'll try to remember "right or happy".
Dom: I can honestly say that HE escalated things. Although, I didn't back down either. I need to figure out how to control myself. I need to figure out how to NOT REACT when he starts in. I don't see how 1 person can bring peace to the home. I mean, with the OCD thing, he gets really angry, really quick. I may not even be in the room, but he'll open a drawer that is messy, and end up dumping it all out on the floor, and blame me for it being a mess, and how I obviously don't care about our home, etc...I don't want the kids to see that or be raised around it.
Marcum, thanks for responding. I AM being blamed for EVERYTHING. He has not taken responsibility for ANYTHING and is waiting, watching for me to slip up in my changes so he can justify leaving. I don't want to sound like a kid, but it's not fair.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
