SC, Keep it coming! In some sense all of us here are verbal/emotional abusers because we often could not sense/empathize/validate our spouse's feelings or got too overwhelmed by them and reacted badly instead of being the bigger person. Esp. us DAMs and your H seems like an extreme case. But give your H a lot of credit too and don't let your "power & control" turn the tables and push him over the edge. What do you mean your C "betrayed" you?
