Are you recognizing YOUR positive too, Nikki? I recall you saying something about how H didn't open up or tell you things he thought you'd be upset by because of how you'd react. What you described was a new Nikki and a new H--H told you something you might not like (i.e. he's feeling more comfortable), and you listened, validated, and supported. The more you do this, the closer you move towards the more personal conversations about your M.

Pat yourself on the back. And truly...everything happens for a reason. All will be well. She was just a nasty, gooey bandaid--and not even the brand name kind. Generic. Cheap. Pathetic really.

Honestly...once I grasped the idea that it didn't matter who or where OW was, it got easier. H can cheat at any time, but if I focus on me and my M, it's less likely to happen.

Are you proud of you? I am!

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!