My husband and I have stayed together the past eight years for the sake of the kids, leading basically separate lives. Now he wants to save the marriage of 26 years as we head into the empty nest years. We have both read SSM, have dredged up and talked out stuff in the past few months like we have never done in our entire marriage, and we are considering going to a counselor. I have had a couple of affairs and I suspect that he has had at least one. My questions is, do I admit to the affairs, or is that part of not being able to change the past, and just keep it to myself and try to influence the future?
