Guilty as charged.. I am a WAW.

[Bridgestone]

I hope your H will listen to the counselor about communication.

I hope so too.

I'm surprised that knowing how his father is, your son went to him and not you on this issue. My three approach me for everything, because I am the one who gives what they want usually.

He came to me a month ago about this. We talked it through, applied for a student one on-line (they need his paid tuition receipt first to verify he is a college student -wont have that until next month). and I encouraged S. to talk to his dad about it at some point. I had already told H we were doing this. He was non-chalant (whatever, sure, fine) about it at the time

One of the things H. says I do is exclude him from the kids lives by 'dealing with all their stuff', not leaving him things to talk over with the kids and provide advice on.

So even though S & I have already had this disucssion and started down the path of getting a credit card, I though H could provide some input and it would be a good thing for them to connect on since S's dad is a self-employed business man and his dad's dad is on the bank board where we bank.

I think S was looking to show his dad 'hey, look what i'm doing that's responsible, that is taking charge and doing something pro-active in my life" and all he heard his dad do was belittle him for it and tell him why it was silly to do this now.

Makes me want to throw my hands up in the air and walk away again. Have not heard from either S or H what the phone call was about after the arguement last night. Not sure if I should ask.

Hopefully H apologized, but it is actions in the future that need to change. He is notorious for throwing out "I'm sorry" and "it's all my fault" and then thinking that is enough to make it better (as S. pointed out to him again last night). Problem is.. with S going off to college in 8 weeks and then it is 10 hours away, the change for H to show S he has changed gets slimmer and slimmer.

ok.. enough wallowing. I'm going to the driving range to hit some balls, maybe even play 9 holes as I have not yet this year and am missing the time on the course.