Small expansion on above (if anyone's reading...although I don't mind just writing down thoughts) that I've been thinking: Is it wrong to suggest to someone that he/she should stand up for him/herself if their spouse is blatantly having an affair? For example, a spouse that basically says, "I'm spending the weekend over at my lover's place". I've always basically wrote that you don't have to take that and should enforce the boundaries...including packing up their stuff and leaving it for them to pick up. But that's not the spirit of giving...it's looking out for yourself. Kicking your spouse to the curb under those circumstances, and making them crawl through broken glass to win you back, is saying MY self-esteem is to important to me to tolerate this, and according to the initial post I was referencing, that's not what love/marriage is about. Or am I just trying to pick a fight with sg about that?
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
