guess I should update my .signature line. She HAS filed already. served me in Dec 2006. At the time, was full-steam ahead for getting it done. Over time, this has mellowed out. But she still is holding on tightly to a grudge. Too tightly to reconcile with me.
She asked me to buy her out of our house. Previously, it was just because she "wanted out". However, in the present, she says it is only because she "needs the money" to help her parents make payments on loan for their home remodelling(where she lives in the added-on rooms and pays rent), because her father just lost his job.
When I asked her, she said that was the only reason. and while she "thinks about finalizing the divorce sometimes", she says she does not have any specific plans to do so at the moment.
'course, the last time we spoke about her intentions, she wasnt actively dating a guy in the same timezone. So I dont know whether she still has no plans to do so. double-ugh.
Dom, the last line here is something that's been rolling around in my head since I read it. My wife recently told me in an email "I have not asked them to prepare a divorce filing at this time." She's friendly at times but communication has been slowly eroding away. Nor can I really count on her to get things done that she says she'll do or is required to do.
So what gets me about my situation and yours a bit too is why? If it was all so bad that they had to start down this path, why after heading down it is there a seemly uncertainty to walking the path. Along with that then if they aren't certain of this way why are they not certain of the other path called reconciliation?
Its definitely frustrating for both of us because our situations have been going on for so long. Yet we stand and we should be proud of ourselves for holding to our commitments in the face of such uncertainty.
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
