I've decided that I will set up the air mattress in the third bedroom and let him know just before he says he is going to bed that it is in there for him, with no other comment or R talk. If he asks why, what changed from this morning then I will read him my email.
God, I can't wait to go camping next weekend. It will be just me in my head for the weekend, with the dog for company.
(((((Kelly Jo)))))
I was thinking.... I like the email, but! I don't think he is ready to hear it. I think everything you said in it is right, and true. But it isn't going to help you get where you want to go.
But, you need to set a boundary! I was going to suggest that rather than the email, you tell him that if you are still separated he can't sleep in the same bed with you. And, I see, that you came to the same conclusion. If he asks questions, I don't know that I would go with the email, I would keep it simpler, perhaps. We are seperated, you may not sleep with me. Don't bring up what happened last night at all. It is in the past. He was VERY wrong, I think, to do what he did, but right now telling him that isn't going to help you. But setting boundaries for the future, starting today, can.
