Pressure is happening because, no matter how you try to spin this thing, you are still goal oriented on getting sex. You are not trying to really repair the problem. There is a difference. The problem is NOT that you aren't getting sex, but you think that it is, therefore you are only focused on getting that "problem" fixed...not the root issue, which is that you and your wife are BOTH contributing to your lack of physical intimacy.
And as far as the "superior to men" comment, puh-leeze. Can you not take advice for what it is worth? I am not saying women don't do this (trying to distract to get sexual attention) because they are superior...I am saying it is because women tend to be very concerned about others' feelings and once we get that message "don't bug me while I am working" we remember it and don't do it again. Whereas men are more concerned about their own feelings...which is not to say they are inferior it is simply a fact (and it is actually something women should adopt more often). Men will tend to be more concerned with their own need for sudden sexual attention than he is concerned about whether his wife is receptive to that or not. When she isn't, he gets insulted, but how is that fair? She never invited it and she is clearly working at that moment.
But don't believe me! Just go ahead and grab her boob the next time she has a frying pan in her hand and then see how far you get. Do it every morning! Its a sure fire way to get her turned on! (hee hee...I'm just joshin' ya).
