yes. People change, develop new interests, abandon others. It's obviously important to balance pursuing your own interests with involving your spouse in your life or there is the danger of growing too far apart. Of course, the same is true for your spouse. Healthy marriages require a mutual willingness to challenge and be challenged. If you don't care enough to be an interesting and interested partner, you've abandoned the relationship.
Your exchange with H re: counseling is ... well, you know. He's DAM.
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H & S (18) got into it tonight.. I swear to god it was like an out of body experience listening to the two of the argue.
Oh this thing between a father and a son. Loudon Wainwright wrote a song about it. IMO there is a dynamic there that women find hard to understand. Men find it hard to understand, but we still get wrapped up in it. You did really well by not trying to 'take care' of it.
