I told her that I don't like her talking to them about me - it's none of their biz. She said they are like her family now
So, she doesn't like the perception of you talking to family, but is fine with talking about you to her new "family"? Hmmmm...double standard anyone.
Mules, I don't think I'm comfortable anymore with offering much in the way of suggestions. The MLC forum may give you more insightful advice. I know these neighbors are poison to your marriage, but I just don't think it's something you can control. Maybe they have suggestions. Read the book again. Approach this another way. The more you resist this, the harder she fights back against losing this new family. You have to try something else, I just don't know what that may be.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
