I can share some of the spew I got when I exposed.
W: Why would you tell her? me: She deserved to know what was going on in her marriage. W: Don't you think that should have been up to OM to tell her? me: It's been going on for 9 months, when was he planning on telling her? W: It's none of your business what goes on in their marriage. me: It's my business what goes on in my marriage. W: You just blew any chance we had at saving our marriage. me: So if I don't say anything about you scr*wing OM, our marriage has a chance? W: Not any more. me: Ok. W: What's that mean? me: Just ok. W: You're so controlling. me: If I'm controlling because I have a problem with my wife sleeping with a married man, I can live with that. W: This is no one else's business. Why would you tell her? me: I can see why you wouldn't want anyone to know. W: Whatever. me: goodnight.
There was quite a bit more, but you get the jist. I added some things about the truth lacking around our house.
Just think "drug addict separated from her drug". In my experience it took longer than the 5 days Puppy related for the anger to go away. So don't hang on to that, but they DO get over the anger.
Nice Job.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.