hi Purple so much of what I hear you write sounds a lot like me & my sitch (except for the OM/OW)
not much to add except I understand. H & I are going back to counseling just for communication skills. Our are horrible. We try to talk through the hurts & what the other needs, but we just seems to 95% of the time shutting down and not getting it said or listened in a way that is productive.
I feel (opps I mean I think) until we can get better at this skill, trying to work through what needs to change, what the old hurts are, etc to improve the R will have to wait.
hugs to you today.
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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