For the Guy with kids and a WW5

[hopeful4her]

kat, thanks. Yup, same guy.

I am just a foolish man. I hate to see others in pain and try to help them through by giving uplifting words.

Especially when it's someone as nice as you, and at the very last step in the process. It's hard to see hope in your sitch. I keep seeing hope in mine. Although, I realize that I may only be seeing what I WANT to see.

It's easy to give advice but hard for me to take my own. I hope that I have not offended you with what I have told you. That was not my intention.

In my small mind, going a bit dark(polite and business like), like you suggest, seems to only quicken the process that she has started anyway. I believe that EITHER way I act towards her, she is going to move out.

So why not let her seeing the best of me, be the last thing that remembers and sees?

When she goes, I will have no choice to embrace it. At least try to. I'll hopefully be able to think more clearly, get out and do things with friends more. I keep turning down invitations to go out and do things. Especially on weekends. If I go out, then she feels like she'll do the same. The last time I went out and tore it up(which felt great btw)she went out and ended up renting a hotel room the next night. It drives me nuts.

That thinking will stop, I think, when she is gone. I hope it is easier to not think about what they are doing when you are seperated. When they are in the same bed, IMPOSSIBLE.

For example, yesterday I was invited to dinner and drinks tonight by a good friend. She has been texting me and calling every so often. She does the same thing I do. It is not "B". Her name is "D". "D" is in same line of business as I am. We've had lunch and hung out together at a recent festival we had in our little town earlier this year. She is trying to D her H for years. I've known them both for years. He is an a**, and doesn't deserve her, but then again, she ain't no w. I did a favor for one of her friends and she invited us both out. I turned it down to do something family tonight. Circus in town.