Silly - just honestly, you are still putting way too much pressure on her for sex. But hang in there you will get it right soon. :0)
OK, assuming you're right, what do I do? I did two weeks of not initiating or mentioning sex in any way, and that just about killed me. I'll go back and read the thread from then, but it doesn't seem, in my memory, like it made much difference to her.
I was told here that she needs time to build up arousal and so I have to mention sex early and then keep giving her small reminders so she has time to think about it. That's all I was trying to do. I'm trying to find a balance here. I don't want to "pressure" her, but I didn't like pretending I didn't care about sex, either. Besides, I vent here, but I didn't say anything to my wife (not even by a look or an attitude) about being disappointed about sex last night. It wasn't her fault, and I tried very hard to act like I understood that. I only let my little-boy irritation show here.
So, I'm putting too much pressure on her. What should I do instead of what I'm doing now?
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I don't think it is as common for a woman to do this "getting your attention" or distracting you while you are doing something else as it is for a man.
Well, neither of us can prove it, but certainly I disagree. Women do it all the time. My wife doesn't--anymore--but when sex was something she thought about, she certainly did. Nowadays I doubt she stopped because she's superior to men; I imagine she stopped because it was a sexual thing to do and she doesn't feel sexual anymore.
The biggest difference is that the average man would probably only get a flash of irritation--the average guy wants sex enough to drop what he's doing if his woman indicates that she's willing at that moment. So he might say it's annoying that she interrupted his work, but his actions say he didn't really mind.
