Neil - Your W is confused and in as much pain as you are, if not more. She doesn't know what to do for the best all round, just think about it. The pros and cons for staying or going are huge. The more you are showing her that you can be that man she always wanted all along, the more that confusion grows and therefore the pain increases.
I tend to not ask to much about my W's thoughts anymore, I just go read a SC post, get tears in my eyes, say I'll not read again and repeat.
Don't get the general humour I try to put accross in my posts wrong, it's just my way of dealing with things. I was always an optimist and happy person who was always joking and I lost that. This sitch has helped me find that again and I'm happier in myself for it. It was also how I was when I met my W and it has slowly slipped away, but either with my W or without her, I'm happier this way and that is all that matters. I cannot control her and what will be will be etc. Basically, stop worrying about her and be happy being you dude. think of how and what made you happy before your W, when you were younger, what made you happ and try to get that back.
