I have had the same issues in my situation. W left on 01/28/2008 and moved in with OM. She has now come home to Australia but we're in separate rooms and intimacy is in a coma - we're not wearing our rings and are still "separated" though under the same roof. I guess we're just less separated than before but my expectations are still low to non-existent.
Please for your own good maintain unflappability for yourself. Know that you will be OK whatever happens - and that things are probably going to be OK with H. Still yet to hear an ILY from my W but I sense that she is beginning to soften a little - we spend time together daily.
Take care of yourself GH31
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
