nocode, that is amazing about Joyce Meyer's. Maybe you'll need to plan an StL trip!
Journaling:
H brought home this huge pool for the girls today. They gasped when they saw it and were so excited. I think they swam until bedtime. I love summer.
H and I continue on in peace. I made our 2nd mediation appt for next Tuesday. I have also begun the refinance process to put the house in my name and pay H his part of the equity. Ramen noodles for years to come but at least I won't be married to someone who doesn't love me.
We made it through the weekend with D4's birthday celebrations. I need more space from H, he is around a lot lately. I will be still and silent until more changes happen around us. Because I know when I ask for more space, he will be hurt/offended and take the girls with him. Not to punish me, but to give me more space and keep spending time with them.
He is distracted and quiet, kind and odd. He is going through bad times as well, even if he has chosen this.
I've been lurking the past few days and have been looking for you to come on. I wanted to send an email to see how you were, but didn't get much of a chance to get online. Sorry! I was thinking of you.
Lady, boy do I understand needing the space. I also understand the Ramen noodles comment. I'd do that too.
You are right. He chose this. I'm just sorry that you and the girls have to take the pain of his decision.
Check on ya again soon. Take care!
Big hugs from MN
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
Hi LWB, I've been home since Sunday, I've been trying to catch up on everyone's post. I've been busy the past two days, but got on when I had a minute.
First of all, I'm sending you a gigantic hug. Congrats on completing the run, you go girl. Happy belated b-day your wonderful little angel.
I'm so sorry that you found out that he is involved with another OW, as you would say "blechy"!!!!! I totally understand your need to be distance yourself from him. I really think that is in your best interest right now. You are so sweet and you worry about everyone else's feelings, but you know what, you are a worthwhile person too. As a matter of fact you are an awesome person.
Here are some of my thoughts...just remember these are just my thoughts and they may not fit your sitation, but I'm an outsider looking in and I see how much this is hurting your well-being. Maybe it's time to tell him that you appreciate what a supportive and loving father he is, but you think that maybe it's time to stop doing family things together. Maybe you could work out an agreement that he gets the girls when you are working and you get them when he is working. I somehow don't think you will have to worry about him wanting them more. It seems like he has a very active social life and would not want the girls with him in his space right now. I think he likes the convenience of being able to play "family" right now at your house. If this is making you uncomfortable, I believe you have a right to set some boundaries...
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon