Real life is----part 5

[SDFoundGirl]

What you sound like, dear, is relieved. Though it's not the outcome you desired, relief is here.

Your H sounds like a sad and dependent man. He sounds like he expects his happiness to come from outside of him. That's really, really sad. He even sees how awful this is and chooses the unpleasant road anyway.

It's up to you if you continue contact. I think there will be a crash and burn moment for him when he's begging for you back. You need to think about the ACTIONS it would require from him to even consider it. Heck, you need to think about if you would even consider it.

You will be fine. I think you see that...and I'm thrilled to hear you have the theater as a passion to fill your time and feed you. Passion is an important thing in our lives. My H used to be jealous of my passion for teaching...back when he thought I should live my life the way he thought I should. Back before the bomb. Now he sees how I approach teaching differently (I LOVE it, but it doesn't define me like it did before), and he also knows that a happy SD contributes to a happy M...so he supports it.

I'd spend the next little while thinking about what your expectations and boundaries are for your next relationship...be that H or someone else. Get some clarity on that, and you'll be good to go.

SD