Root- You said: The other day I happend to hear this.... you may not "love" or have feelings for your spouse but ACT like you do. Don't push it. Just try to be natural and act as if you do and think it. Often it's the actions and thinking a certain way that will bring about the feelings.
I find if I try to think more positive I become more positive.
Very helpful advice for me to use as soon as I can. The depression is really getting to me. I just want it to go away, but it keeps making me want to sleep or lay in bed as much as possible. I know, from the outside, it seems like it should be mind over matter, but it just isn't. I was going to see a counselor before retrouvaille, but my schedule is so tight I don't know how I would fit it in. I am continuing to read my books which is kinda helping I think.
You're right. He's a good guy. Thanks for that encouragement about the silver lining....I keep hoping.
Sandi- What your mom did is what I will begin doing as soon as I am able. I need a few more weeks to even get to a place where I can even do that. You definitely know what I am going through emotionally. I, too, have lost about 15 pounds. There is nothing in my closet that doesn't fit. I'm just never hungry....or maybe it is the one thing in my life I feel I control....one or the other. Yes...one battle at a time...you got it. Thanks, Sandi.
Thanks so much, Mark. I do see so many painful stories on here. I do think we have a good chance. Sometimes I wonder if I am the crazy one...maybe the spouses like me are the right ones...most DO leave....:( Can't think like that......
