How do you do it? I'm trying to move forward but not get divorced, if that makes sense. The more it goes on, the more I realize I don't believe in divorce.. I just don't. I believe you work through things. We let things fester forever.. now I have a different understanding of what is possible.
That is the trick isn't it, to detach as much as possible & move forward w/out pushing it into a D.
I remember thinking in week one of all this, that we would have something resolved before his B-Day 6 weeks later. That was before I knew there was OP, or that they had the A going on for so long. The combination of OW & MLC is a nasty one, I'm afraid. I admire you for how you're handling it all though.
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Yuck...yucky , yuckier , yuckiest !! How's that for an answer?!?!
Oh pally, if CVA sees this as a pattern, then i would encourage you to just keep sitting on those hands/duct tape that pretty mouth/remember not to drink your own personal bottle of wine (that was thanksgiving, wasn't it???
Boy, you have a great memory L, although I just bought another case of good wine today, I don't plan on drinking any bottles myself anytime soon. I also stocked up on Organic carrot juice, so at least it'll kinda cancel out.
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Ok, I like Puddle's Question. You could answer that.
But let's pretend we're all still DBing here. (Newbies-puddle and I aren't really, or are we?) anyway, what is step 5 of DR? Something like review how your strategy is working right?
So, sunny, my love, how's it working for you? Have you progressed in your 14 months? Or are you in a rut? Or a holding pattern? Didn't you say that dumbass, jackass H of yours is comfortable? So, maybe time to try something new. Standing still feeling good?
Hey, want those two coaching sessions I bought and never used?
Yes, Puddle,I would like to have the option of an intact, successful M, w/him. Although it's being chipped away at daily. I'm not the type to give up easily. Apparently
Oh Nomo,
I have a card sitting here that I meant to send off a month ago....I am thinking of you though & will give you a call.
Holding pattern is the best description I think, so I'm about to try something new, if I can get off my hands & actually do it. Sometimes I think, even if standing still isn't going anywhere, it's easy to "freeze up", the trick may be in knowing the difference between pressuring & nudging.
Yes, I would love those left-over sessions, I used to say I like left-overs, but now that I am one I might have changed my mind.
