Yuck...yucky , yuckier , yuckiest !! How's that for an answer?!?!
Oh pally, if CVA sees this as a pattern, then i would encourage you to just keep sitting on those hands/duct tape that pretty mouth/remember not to drink your own personal bottle of wine (that was thanksgiving, wasn't it??? )
I would suggest that this holiday is not the time to draw your line in the sand...will you/can you be with others/friends during the day/evening, or is it pretty much just the 4 of you? Maybe the thing to do is set yourself a non-holiday deadline (like 2 months from today...no, that would be labor day...oops...so maybe in a month) as a time to take stock and see how you feel then. Doesn't mean you have to make a big change, but it would give you a finite time frame for reassessment. I get the sense that these days you are just rolling along with everything in flux...
And I've heard/seen this before:
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(you can come if you want to, you need to eat, right?), so it would look like I just came along. That way he's being true to OW.
When I look/listen carefully at how H says things, it's pretty much just this way...and he reports back to OW about things he's done as if I didn't exist or somehow was a non-participant in the family most of the time (Okay, so I'm still snooping his email sometimes...)
I've got to run now...end of the day at work, and the computer's acting squirrely...don't want to lose this. I'll be back, however, this evening...
, yuckier 
, yuckiest 
!! How's that for an answer?!?!
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