I would say no R talk yet unless she initiates it. She needs to work through her thoughts and feelings without any "pushing" from you. A deadline, or perception of one, will only stress her out more.
Be her friend. If she wants to be serious and wants to talk, then do it as much as you can handle. But don't push any R talks on her.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2