I think that is a fab idea. Make a wooden cross and put in a nail for each thing I can remember that I thought was bad and let it go. Many of those things on that list I have forgiven but not forgotten. I don't think I have enough nails... lol.
I think the point I'm making about it is. I put up with a lot of bull crap, and IMHO never faultered. Yes her lenses maybe skewed like Ian had said.
Now look I how I got punished for putting up that list.
When I got home, she was sitting on the front porch sun bathing on the chair. The kids were in the house playing the Wii.
She said they were driving her F'n nuts today so she brought them here. I said I know they can be challenging at times. She complained how they can't do anything for themselves. I said well they do here because I make them.
Well the great part is she stayed for about 15 minutes and her and I just talked. Nothing in particular or about anything. I told her the story of how the water company put a note on the door about the meter being off. I was laughing when I was telling the story. My wife said it's because the kids are not here all the time, did you blame it on the kids. I said I didn't blame it on anybody I just told them it was going to go down even more.
Then she started complaining about the yard looking like a mess. I said well it has rained everyday. I don't have time to take care of it, and I don't care about no yard anymore.
Then she started complaining that she was getting fat again. I said you were never fat, and she said yeah right. She said I'm gaining all my weight back though. Seriously she is lucky if she weight 110 lbs soaking weight with a fur coat on.
Well it was a real pleasant sit on the porch. She had to leave to get ready for work. Looks like she is going to be pushing it to get there on time. I stayed on the porch and didn't get up when she walked out. She stood at the stoop for ahwhile, but I'm not falling for it. I didn't try to approach her or show her affection. She said that our son wanted to stay with me again tonight and watch pirate movies. I think I created a monster. When she walked to the car she must have said good bye three more times. I said good bye have a good time at work. She said she hopes they are not busy, because it is so nice so she was doubtful.
I acted a little detached and didn't bother to look at her driving away. Then you know here come the flood gates of tears.
A. I'm getting goal number one. She hung out and intiated conversation.
B. She came to do laundry again, and just wanted to dump the kids asap because they drove her nuts all day.
Think it was A, Phil be positive.
Maybe I should make a list of the 1 and half million things I love about her. Be like a golf shot. Forget the bad shots and remember the good.
