Thank you ST!

haha yes OT is great with those suggestions. (Lucky H you have, OT ;\) ).

I really hope he's seeing it as a new chapter - sure feels like one to me. And hopefully some of those ideas OT suggested will help both ease the transition, and get him more excited about his new job. Right now the anxiety about leaving the "dream job" for a mechanic is overshadowing any excitement about the new place.

About the accident and my reaction - thanks for your concerns. The "thinking the worst" is something I used to be very bad about (I get it from my Mom). It's something I've worked very hard on to change and I'm MUCH better about it - otherwise I'm pretty sure I couldn't handle the racing thing at all. My reaction being so strong totally has to do with factors specific to that particular incident. Mostly due to not seeing what happened, the guy on the radio telling me incorrect information, and knowing that one of the two turns we couldn't see was the worst possible spot for an incident.

I was anxious but not bad until the radio guy told me "He's in the wall in 10." "In the wall" most places sucks but not a big reason to worry about anything more than H will be upset that his car's damaged. There are certain types of accidents where they call the emergency helicopter immediately, often before the track safety crew even gets to the car - "In the wall in 10" is one of those. Sort of the difference between seeing your H get rear-ended in a parking lot vs. getting a call that your H was hit by a truck on the freeway. I think given those factors my reaction was pretty average / "normal." My major lesson learned was not to listen to the "rumors" on the radio and speculation in the pit area. In my rush to get any possible information I got very bad information and ended up getting WAY more upset than I needed to. Next time, ignore it all until I have definite facts!


Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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