wii: yep, I've had a few of those casual conversations with a few men. I was never a flirt, but find I'm not terrible at it, when I feel like it. Pretty harmless stuff. I will be separated from x for a year (about 2 weeks from now). But I'm just not going to focus on it; as a few said, when I am really ready, it will show, and then I can be open to being approached and decide from there. I've decided that, while it might be fun, it would just take up too much of my time, and I'd rather dedicate that to my kids, the activities I am already involved in, and finishing up grad school.
ot: again, always something to think about. I know that from x's perspective, he is doing what he feels must be done for him, taking his life in the direction that he is. He is as sure of it, as I am that it is a mistake. Your point of view is more respectful to him in that. It doesn't really matter anymore, as we have completely severed our lives from each other. The only link is a very small one, now, in scheduling things for the kids. That is done through email. I have even backed off any ideas of talking to my BILs and SILs about the sitch. They have nothing to do with it, and whether or not they accept his gf is really their business. It is up to me to decide if I attend family things if I know that she will be there, and I think the first time that may come up is not until Thanksgiving, so I don't have to consider it right now.
Remember that song, Let it Be....it plays alot in my head, now.
Things are quiet inside me right now. What a difference.
