Phil, I imagine her list may consist of a lot of the same things you said in yours.
It appears to me there are a lot of she did so I did things on your list. I wonder how it looked through her lenses. That is not to say that you saw it wrong, merely that you both probably saw things quite differently.
I know that when my W started talking to me about the past and things that had happened, I was amazed by her view. IMO it was skewed, but the reality for her is that is how she fealt.
Please listen to what Jack said about the instant gratification. It seems to be huge for you as you allow her to dictate your feelings based on her reactions to your behavior.
It is not a chess match where you are posturing, it is about life changes and consistancy. If you consistantly treat her well, in time she will believe it is real.
