Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

I am going to a gam-anin meeting next monday. Sis inlaw
and two friends are also going and possibly her mother.

All family and friends are on board to help her. W knows nothing
about any of this. Hopefully gam-anon will provide tools
and advice on how to support her positively.

I know that at least 50% or more of our relationship problems are
because of her lying and frivolous spending and gambling.

When we get along, we get along great and are true best friends.
When we are no getting along it's harsh and ugly.

Right now it's all her, she is the one being harsh, hostile,
cold and not wanting to be friends. I am acting as if and trying
to be happy and positive at all times regardless of what she
says or does. (very hard!)

The guy I talked to at gam-anon said based on his experience
that she sounds like she is near a crash point. He recommended
I and family go to a meeting or two and then use the tools they
provide to try and get her to go to a meeting.

The older couple we are friends with did call me last night and
mentioned she was talking to them. She told them she really
appreciated that I brought her money over and she said that
"we were not friends to each other right now." They asked
well why not? and she said "because its going to take her
a while to get over everything that happened in the past."
They said "well how is he now and what does the past have
to do with now?" and she just said "he's great and I'm glad
he has helped himself, but it's going to take me a while to
get over all of this" and then she changed the subject.

I am taking that conversation as a positive sign. She is the
one who called them to talk about me.

- Scott