New Abbreviation for everyone VI

[Starshyne]

Big hugs to you and the kids Jeff! I stood in your shoes and I know how it feels. It hurts. As long as my H kept going with the affair I wouldn't allow him in the house. Now we know that he got back in because his name is on the title and everything, but I still made it clear that there is no marriage as long as OW was still in the picture. Once the OW was gone, I was always willing to work on things. I always knew that I had it in me to forgive and trust again. He never was willing to do that and so I am almost divorced.

It will someday hit your W. It hasn't hit my H yet. It will. It may be years from now, but I guarentee that both my H and your W will look at the mess of a life they created and think, "what the hell have I done? I threw away a perfectly good life, a wonderful spouse...everything for what?" Maybe it will happen once the OP has left them.

I just feel your pain, Jeff. I really do. No one wants to throw their spouse out of the home. That wasn't the deal on your wedding day. But you have no choice at this point. God be with you and your kids.

Sara