Just get some good vanilla ice cream. And some chocolate chips. Put some chocolate chips and some butter in a cup (more or less equal amounts), and put it in the microwave, just long enough to melt the butter. Then stir it, and the chocolate chips will melt into the butter. Pour that over the ice cream, and you'll be fine!
Thanks Kalni. I think I just feel really lonely beacuse none of my friends or family are supporting me. It's like I can't talk about it anymore. If I try in any positive light they pity me and remind me that it is over. They don't understand that I know that at the moment it is over, or my past relationship is over. It is not about that for me anymore. It is about taking each encounter at a time and trying to build a positive relationship out of it, if only to make the split easier. As well as trying to make myself happy.
I was sitting here thinking that I really have no one left to call on anymore. The only person is my sister and she is on holiday at the moment.
You have us....and we are nerotic enough to be here around the clock sometimes....lol
Also, my MIL, though wanting us to stay together told me several times the my W had made up her mind and that I just needed to get used to being without her and just move on. This is your life not theirs.
All this talk about ice cream is making me hungry
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
Thanks TD. It's funny because everyone is convinced that because he said it was over at that point that was it. He said 3 weeks beforehand that he wasn't ready to give up but no one focuses on that. It is just so hard feeling like you are on your own and coming back to an empty house is hard too sometimes. Just me, the cat and the TV... Not that I'm feeling sorry for myself at all :-)
When I went to my Mum's on my birthday the first thing she asked me was whether she should take down our wedding photos from the wall. I just asked her whether she really needed to ask me that when I was there trying to celebrate my birthday. It's horrible, and I am so glad that I have found this BB...
Remember from the DR book, your friends and family don't want to see you in any pain, they are more interested in the short term fix to get you out of the pain, not the long term goal that will make you happy. That is something you have to decide. Don't be afraid to put your mum in her place though. Let her know where you stand, and you understand why she is saying those things, but right now you are standing for your marriage, she can either support you or keep her thoughts to herself. She might be taken aback, but she will likely respect your stand
TwinDad Me 39, W 36, M 11 W - MLC, WAW???? 2 Kids B/G 3 YRS Old Start of the Long and Bumpy Road..... On the verge of piecing.....a new beginning
I know you are right TD. It is something that I have to work on. Quite a lot of my friends and family have said things lately to me that have, quite frankly, been out of order but I am always too scared to say anything. It is like my head is screaming too but I can't get the words out because I am scared of the fall out. I am putting so much energy into keeping going, trying to GAL, trying to function at work and preparing for my encounters with H. I am also scared that if I start driving people away they won't want to be there for me and I won't be able to GAL. At the same time it doesn't make me feel very good about myself.
I think maybe, having got all that out, that I am feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything on my plate at the moment. I am feeling kind of soley responsible and probably being a bit over-the-top. I suppose I just got used to sharing with my h.
I should probably take a step back and work out what is important.
YES! When things get overwhelming, take a step back, and figure out what matters today. Trust your instints on it, don't overthink it. Remember that what's important for you right now might not be what's important for someone else. For instance, you'll probably want to pick up some ice cream and chocolate chips tomorrow. Most people might think there are a lot of other things more important than that!
