And so it begins....

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All good points. I suppose the M is defined by the mutual R between H and W. D is the end of that R and the subsequent legalities of the D. I think, perhaps, what people are referring to when they say D is “just a piece of paper” is that the legal process is simply a matter of paperwork. The true D is the death of the R and M.

Beth makes a very astute observation about the stbx making nice. You are right, if she actually wanted reconciliation she would spell it out for me in no uncertain terms. As it is, she is just easing guilt and, I guess, trying to develop a new “friend” R. While it is true I am happy things are civil and not turning nasty, I have no interest in being her “friend.” It is far too painful.