It was just one thing I asked of her was to tell me when I upset her or do something that hurts her feelings and not act like it did not happen just to keep the peace. That is the change I was talking about a look does not do it for me I need a raised voice or a simple "please don't do that again that really hurts". Then I can appologize for it and try not to do that again.
Being raised with two brothers that fought and argued then moved on without acknowledging that feeling may have been hurt is how I handled stuff with my wife. I have tryed to change that but sometimes I am still oblivious to doing it and need something said to me.
