yes that is sad, but he sounds like a mature 16 year old, and if she's going to see the light, it will be because of what he says to her.

me: 37
H: 44
Married for 18 years this june
S7
S3
porn issues, and much more... since 7/06

Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.