Hope4us struggle, part 6

[Hope4us]

Thanks guys. I'm prepared. I know she will try to turn this into it being all about me, but that's not the case in the least. I've been staying here for now because previous to this S16 said he wanted to stay, so even though I've been miserable I've stayed.

I'll tell her I know it's hard on her. I've told her that many times already and told her I'd be here to help her get through it, but she just doesn't want my help. She's so freakin stubborn. It's like if she admits any little bit that she F'd up it would be a crime.

I'm just going to tell her that I understand how hard it is for her and how confused she must be and that's why I think it's best for me and S16 to move while she stays here so she can figure out what she REALLY wants to do. I'm going to say it doesn't mean us moving means I want a divorce. I just want to give her a chance to decide what she wants to do and us being separate will give her the space she needs to do that.

And if she tells me she's trying, I'll tell her I appreciate and can see that she is, but that there are many things that I've learned that would help, but because she's unwilling to listen to me or read any information to try to help her I find myself caring less and less for her each day and I don't want that to happen.

S16 called me a bit ago and said he'd talked to her and asked what she thought and she said "why do you need an answer right now"? He said she then avoided any more talk about it. He said to me "I think we should just move without her".

That about breaks my heart to hear my son be in a position where he'd rather move without his mother than to continue to live in the environment he is with her.