Originally Posted By: Kimmie Lee
A divorce is certainly much more that "just a piece of paper".

I don't know why anyone would make such a statement, but I see it a lot around this board.

A divorce most certainly is more that a piece of paper. It strips a spouse of so many things, not the least of which are the legal benefits, survivorship, medical, military, etc.

I don't believe a divorce is "just a piece of paper".


Kimmie,

I think the big point here is the M is NOT defined by a piece of paper... If that were true, these spouses would not cheat and/or leave. A marriage is just what the two spouses make it....

The M essentially ends when there is an EA/PA or one emotionally "leaves" the M..... The D is just the legal affirmation of the end of the M....

As for the financial realm, I believe we should always plan to stand on our own two feet.... Not relying on anyone..... One needs to get an education, job or whatever.... God only knows what the future holds...

BTW, one of the better "examples" of an R I have seen is a couple who have been together 25+ years... They never were legally married.. Yet, they are very committed....

NMD

Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 07/01/08 06:18 PM.
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