I'm at the end of it again & feel like making a move. My friend CVA tells me I get this way every holiday or occassion, like birthday's, etc.
When H came to pick up S's yesterday, he did the regular "ask" me to go with them, without really asking directly (you can come if you want to, you need to eat, right?), so it would look like I just came along. That way he's being true to OW. I finally just said I wouldn't go anywhere with him while he has a GF & I don't enjoy being treated like a toy you get out to play with.
So, he says, "I hear ya, but I don't treat you like a toy & never have" & leaves.
He wants to come over & spend 4th of July here on Friday with all of us. I'm feeling like I don't want to keep this up the way it is...cake eating. So, I think I may e-mail him that we can each have Evan for part of the holiday, (not together).
CVA tells me to do nothing, ignoring him & acting as if, is the way to go.
I'm sitting on it for the time being, since I'm not going to see him until tomorrow.
My hands are numb from sitting on them.
It seems that the longer this goes on, the more comfortable he is in keeping it up. From the looks of it, that's typical of the pattern.
I don't know if I should make any changes, or what the best ones might be.
